Research in laboratory settings consistently shows that what people say they want in a partner has virtually no bearing on who they actually choose to date. — Samantha Joel Ph.D.
One of the best feelings in this world is meeting someone whom you are comfortable to be around with. Falling in love with a person who completes you is such a fantastic opportunity, which can happen only once in a lifetime. As such, once you find this person, make sure to keep him around. However, it does not mean that you will just tolerate all the bad habits that you do not like about him. For example, if you are dating someone who enjoys smoking, do you consider this bad habit as a deal-breaker?
If you are a non-smoker, then the issue highlighted above is something that you need to take seriously. Before you start to date a person exclusively, make sure that you are okay with the fact that he is a smoker. Below is a list of things that you need to be aware of if you are dating a smoker:
- He Will Smell Of Cigar
Prepare yourself because everything may start to smell like the cigar that he enjoys smoking. Take note that the smoke coming from a cigarette has a high possibility of being absorbed in his clothes, hands or mouth. No matter how hard they try to spray perfume or put cologne, the smell will still be there. It is something that you have to accept at this early stage.
- Expect Him To Take Breaks
A smoker needs some time alone to finish at least one stick of cigarette whenever they feel the urge to smoke. These constant breaks are essential for his sanity. He will always find time to smoke after a dinner date or while on a road trip. Is this something that you can deal with? If yes, then dating a smoker will not be a big deal. However, if you want to get all the attention from him, then maybe it is about time to re-think your choices and decisions.
Social smokers think they can control their smoking because they may go for one, two, three or even seven days without smoking. However, what’s really happening is that over that period of time, however long it is, their craving for nicotine continues to build until they can no longer resist the urge. — Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D.
- You Will Stay Outdoors Most Of The Time
Nowadays, it is illegal or prohibited for a person to smoke indoors. Because of this, a person who wants to smoke may be required to go outdoors. Of course, the other person would like to ask you to accompany him whenever he would smoke outside the house or a public place. Because of this, you will have an opportunity to stay outdoors most of the time. It can be a good thing since it would expose you more to nature.
- Prepare For Second-Hand Smoke
Even if you are a non-smoker, there is still a high chance that you would experience the adverse effects of smoking. A recent study shows that second-hand smoke is also dangerous as it can lead to some severe health problems. As such, make sure that you have a good immune system once you start going out with a chain smoker. It is necessary that you let him smoke on his own. Remind your partner to only light a cigarette when you are not around. This is an excellent way to avoid the negative impact of cigarettes on your health.
What’s more, studies are now indicating that so-called “third-hand” smoke (i.e., the smelly film of volatile, poisonous smoke particles that cling to a smoker’s clothes and hair) is also seriously bad for people’s health. — Clifford N. Lazarus Ph.D.
Now that you are aware of these things, all that is left to do is for you to make a decision. Find out whether or not you are ready to accept all the things enumerated above. The choice is yours!